Content of the material
- Here are the top 5 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Looks At Other Women
- This Healing Mindset That Helps Overcome Trauma Symptoms
- 5. Resist the Urge to Explode at Him
- Is There a Chance to Salvage the Relationship?
- How to know when hes really fallen in LOVE
- 2. How Do You Know If Your Husband Is In Love With Another Woman?
Here are the top 5 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Looks At Other Women
It’s Habitual. Believe it or not but your boyfriend used to be single before he was dating you. He was checking out girls before the idea of you even popped up into head. So if you caught your boyfriend looking at another woman, understand that he was doing it before he met you and it’s pretty hard to break a cycle that you’ve become so accustomed to. It’s sort of like when you play with your hair in the mirror even though it makes no difference in the end. You do it because it’s become a habit.
It’s Science. I recently watched this documentary that explained how both men and women both give off different chemical scents when they are attracted to the opposite sex. Women give off this weird scent especially when they’re ovulating and men are naturally attracted to it whether they consciously are aware of it or not. It’s freaking science. You can’t expect to change your boyfriends – or any other man for that matter – biological makeup that is scientifically embedded into his DNA. Your complaining or uncertainty isn’t going to change thousands of years of evolution. It’s just part of his reproductive-ness-thingy-whatever. Science wins. Deal with it.
Beauty Attracts. I recently went hiking with my girlfriend and a group of friends in Yosemite National Park. When we got to the top of Nevada Falls, we all took a moment to enjoy the vast beauty of the scenery. Now get with me for a second: the beauty (the view) attracted our eyes to stare out into the distance. If it wasn’t beautiful I probably would have looked but wouldn’t have stared, but since it was so beautiful I found myself endlessly staring.
The same goes for other women. There are other beautiful women in the world. Even the most beautiful women in the world eventually become replaced by other beautiful women. You are not the only beautiful girl in the world. So if you see him staring at other beautiful women, just know that beauty attracts the eye. If it didn’t, then tons of girls would never care about celebrities and their beauty make-overs. It is what it is.
Physical Attraction. Chances are you love each other unconditionally, but just because he loves your body does not mean he doesn’t have other preferences. For example, my parents have been happily married for 12 years and my mom still makes remarks when she see’s an attractive man. Just because you like minestrone doesn’t mean you can’t like clam chowder. If you can have a preference for ice-cream, why can’t you have a preference with what you like physically?
This does not mean that he doesn’t care about you, it just means that he likes variety. For you to expect him to love you and your body forever, is like forcing him to buy one car and totally disregard every new model that comes out year-by-year. It’s impossible. The new shapes are always going to attract the eye, physical attraction is exactly the same.
He’s Reminiscing The Good Times. It’s true, after the honeymoon phase of the relationship, a man will begin to miss his old way of life. This doesn’t mean that he’s over you, it just means that he’s reminiscing the good times by looking at other women every now and then.
The way that you go through your Facebook and look at the good times you used to have with your girls is the exact same thing he’s doing when your boyfriend looks at other women. It’s just his unique way of remembering the good times (no not remembering other women for you analytical thinkers).
Remember That Chill Pill? Now’s the Time To Take It
As long as he’s looking at not touching you’ve got absolutely nothing to worry about. If he’s constantly doing it in front of you with girls who aren’t even attractive, then you’ve got something to worry about. At least admire the fact that he’s looking at attractive women and not ugly one’s. If you catch him looking at ugly girls, then maybe you should worry a bit.
I mean, did you honestly think guys picked up Playboy Magazines for the insightful articles, absolutely not. They want to see naked girls you know? At the end of the day you’re going to do yourself more bad than good if you constantly think about it. Try not to think about it too much and know that it’s natural for him to do so.
And if it makes you feel any better, he knows you do the exact same thing. As long as you know you care about each other, having a little eye-candy is never a bad thing. Just don’t go as far to start making guys your wallpapers or secretly hiding pics in your smartphone’s camera roll.
All in all his looking is normal and your jealously is equally normal. You guys will be okay! ?
This Healing Mindset That Helps Overcome Trauma Symptoms
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5. Resist the Urge to Explode at Him
No matter what you end up finding out, try not to explode at him or yell. If your boyfriend has been texting another girl with the intent to cheat, then it's time to break it off, plain and simple. There's no need to make it dramatic. Trying to retaliate or hurt him will just make things worse, and the sooner you can get past this stage and out of the relationship, the better.
Is There a Chance to Salvage the Relationship?
If you're not in an open relationship and you find out that he's been seeing other women behind your back, it's going to be hard to rebuild that trust again. Some people can rebuild it, but this is a minority of couples.
It's probably best to just move on and try to learn from the relationship. What could you do next time to avoid dating someone who will cheat?
It might hurt now to realize that someone you trusted completely disregarded you, but it's better that you found out now rather than years down the line. The sooner he shows his true colors, the better. In a sense, you could say that your boyfriend did you a favor by texting another girl and getting caught.
How to know when hes really fallen in LOVE
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2. How Do You Know If Your Husband Is In Love With Another Woman?
It’s one thing to admit ‘my boyfriend looks at other girls’, or that ‘my husband looks at other females on Facebook‘ but it’s quite another for these men to engage with them. So, is your husband in actual contact with any of these women? And by contact I mean ‘liking’ or commenting on their pictures, chatting to them or exchanging phone numbers?
It’s that you can look but don’t touch kind of advice. Looking can be innocent but when a man begins to chat, send texts, meet up, or Facetime this can lead to problems.
Indeed, some men do have a lot of female friends and we all tend to keep in touch via the internet. But is this so-called friend is being kept a secret? Does your husband mind you listening in on the conversations he has with her?
Is he happy for you to view his text messages? His call logs? His internet history? If he is, I would suggest you have little to worry about.
It’s when the behaviour becomes secretive or obsessive there could be a problem. Does he make inappropriate comments to her? Is he always on the internet these days, preferring to spend time on his phone rather than with you?
These signs could be an indication that he is falling in love with another woman. Or that he’s about to cheat on you. So what can you do about it?
Hailey on April 04, 2019:
My boyfriend has been texting another good friend which is a girl daily, is there anything I need to worry about? He told me they are just good friends and nothing fishy is going on
Joicy on March 26, 2019:
I have been witg my boyfriend and and now i have many thoughts about him and i dont trust him i dont know,why do my boyfriend angry when i talk about the relationship? yet he still talks about marrying me
Joicy on March 26, 2019:
I have been witg my boyfriend and and now i have many thoughts about him and i dont trust him i dont know,why do my boyfriend angry when i talk about the relationship? yet he still talks about marrying me
2nd chance on March 22, 2019:
My boyfriend was exchanging explicit pics with other women thru messages, I confronted him, we took some time apart, he said he wanted to work things out, w sat to talk about it he denies he did anything wrong and said his ex was the one sending him pics, but there were several pics of different women, he got pissed, I ignored it, I gave up my apartment sold my furniture to move in with him, I have no where to go, what can I do???i know he hasn’t stopped
Reneemcconnell on January 20, 2019:
My boyfriend paul mcconnell jr .is 54 years old and is talking to a girl by the name of marie mary mrgan age 30.ive told her to quite telling my old man she loveshim and she misses him everyday and she lives half way across the united states what should i do
jay on November 06, 2018:
want to know if my girlfriend is cheating on me,and i want to know if theres anything i can do, to keep her all to myself,even now that i dont have money..???
customers on October 10, 2018:
What are you doing
Tracy on September 24, 2018:
I found a text message on my partner's phone after 11 pm on a Saturday texting a girl saying he will come now but she responded I have a booking 45 min , obviously he couldn't wait that long because he came back home then he responded I will see you tomorrow baby. We have been together for over 10 years and have a child together.
Kristina on September 02, 2018:
My boyfriend asked if he can have my facebook account details and said he wants me to have his. I didn't like the idea but oh well I agreed because it seemed to him as I have something to hide from him if I say no. Lol it was really stupid. Firstly, he read my messages and was like pfff nothing interesting. Then he told me to go through his conversations if I like to and…. I think I was stuck there for like 5 hours. Couldn't even count how many girls he texts to. He sends kisses and hearts and other flirty emojis and says he loves them. I found a few sexual messages as well. I was really confused. My first question was if he even thinks we're exclusive to eachother. He said of course. I said what I've found on his facebook makes me feel very insecure and I didn't expect he would do this. I told him that it's over for us as I dont want to be just a one of many and don't think it's normal. He swore he'll never text anyone again and said he never paid attention to it and never thought it will make me feel this way, begged for pardon and deleted all girls from his friendlist. I guess I'm still going to break up and find someone more mature .-.
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madia sy on July 15, 2018:
you dont always need to be jeolus just let them him be by his self
Sharla Hamilton on July 12, 2018:
I have been living with my boyfriend for almost a year. Recently I noticed him texting someone he rarely texts when we are together and if he does he tells me who. Anyway he seems distance, I know I was wrong for looking on his phone but I saw a woman's name I didn't know so I clicked on it. Their conversation was flirty, nothing sexual but why does he need to text her and flirt. She wanted to know when he was going to ask her out. Nothing said about a girlfriend.Also she works where he does so I take it they see each other every day.I know nothing else is going on because he is home all the time. I have been making comments about commitments and if he ever wants out to let me know. And he says know, I love you, I am good, but how can you be good if you are doing this.Should I tell him I saw the text or leave it alone. I think he knows I saw it but won't say anything because he is guilty too. Just need to know to I let it go and see where it goes or tell him?
TM on July 07, 2018:
I'm not sure if my online bf likes me or my sister. He compliment's me and her about the same when we both are on cam,and also compliment's me when I'm just on cam. Yesterday, they had a sex conversation talking about what they would do in sex, and he said in one of the text's he sent to her, "I won't tell" about the conversation they had about sex. He told me he doesn't text anyone but me and my sister, but he suddenly has 21 girl's on his friends list, and adds more. I'm getting really confused. The same day he did that with my sister, he told me that he loved me before we got off, so I told him I loved him more, and he said "you can't". So it's twisting my mind to whether he likes my sister or me. From my opinion, I think he likes us both the same. I just need someone else's opinion.
June on July 01, 2018:
I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend since May of last year. I'm a little jealous of he exes because she's still in good terms with them. I don't stop her, but I do voice my concerns when she goes out with them one-on-one. My conditions were simple, she just had to let them know she was in a relationship. However, she didn't tell any of them that she was in a relationship (probably because this is her first same-sex relationship). I understood that, but said she could just be vague and not mention a gender. But within the first few months of our relationship, this guy she used to date kissed her. Of course, she said she pushed him off and we figured things out from there. But there was this other ex that she would always smoke with. At one point, I started getting upset because they would hang out often and so she kept it a secret from me. I realized I was getting too controlling so after a huge argument, we agreed on me being less controlling and working on my jealousy and her working on her sexuality and letting people know she's at least taken. It was woking really well for us and for months our relationship was perfect. We never argued and we were just fully loving. But just recently (February) I snooped through her text messages. Although I've never done it before, I had a feeling something was going on. And lo and behold, she's been texting this girl she went on a couple of dates with. The messages were on and off and lasting for months. They consisted of "I want you" and "I miss touching you". I tried to break it off with her, but she cried buckets and swore she was just messaging her because she was bored and how she regrets it and that they've never actually met up. Long story short, I forgave her and we tried to salvage the relationship. She's been patient and apologetic since then and very loving. However, I've been more controlling. i figured since I caught her just by looking through her texts once, there may be more secrets I didn't know about. Then, I saw text messages with this other ex she had. The messages were subtly flirtatious. Lots of smirky face emojis and "you know me so well". I confronted her about it and she said it won't happen again and deleted the messages. When I looked through her IG messages and snapchat, I realize this same ex has always been flirting and hitting her up saying shit like, "hey, cutie" or heart eyes. But she hasn't said anything to him that she's taken or told me about it. Instead, she keeps being friendly with him. And just a few days ago (GRANTED ON MY BIRTHDAY), I found messages on her IG talking to that same girl she texted a few months ago. They messages were in the span of a few days and was only slightly flirty. It was just them discussing plans to hang out and her using an excessive amount of emojis and stuff like that. I tried ending it with her after I found those messages, but she promised me she would never do it again. She told me she loves me more than anything else and how she doesn't know why she does these things. She said if she does it again, I can break up with her but she begged me to say. She said she'd work on herself and is actually taking active steps to do so. She messaged the girl, the ex guy and this other guy she used to date that hit her up and told them that she was taken. I'm still emotionally battered from all of this and my trust in her is minimal. BUT I do love her a lot and no one makes me happy like her. She's making active changes. Do you think things will get better from here? Or am I just a fool for believing in her/us?
Jk Rowling said on June 24, 2018:
So I’ve been with this guy for almost a year but when we turned 5 months of being together he had drunk texted another girl and I mean like really bad I had found this text a couple weeks later and confronted him about it and after that he changed his whole perspective and he hasn’t done it since and he removed his social media but she was an ex what should I do?? I’ve been thinking about it and it’s always in the back of my mind
Shan12boo on June 13, 2018:
Hi am shan, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4years and he continuously text other female. Recently I travel for vocation and family and friends has been calling me to let me know that he has been seen with someone else. I asked about it and he said its not true, so recently I received a message from someone claiming to be his new girlfriend. What should I do?. he has realized his mistake an is asking for forgiveness.need help please.
MITAA on May 25, 2018:
Hi sir im mitaa here..just want to share my problems..i did every thing for my boyfriend whatever he ask i did it.but he always avoid me scold me in the words which i rally feels so hurt.3 years im loving him there are no happiness moment in my love life.i love him truly but i dont think so he is doing the same.now he is talking to another 4 girls one of them is his ex girlfriend.i dont know what to do.feel so pain
Cakefacebitch on May 16, 2018:
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ALL OF YOU GIRLS COMMENTING ABOUT YOUR BOYFRIENDS. IT'S EITHER SO OBVIOUS AND YOU'RE IN DENIAL, YOU'RE VERY UNINTELLIGENT OR LACK COMMON SENSE, OR HE IS A NARCISSIST WHO HAS DONE AN AMAZING JOB MANIPULATING AND BRAINWASHING YOU AND YOU ARE A VICTIM OF HIS ABUSE. YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHICH ONE IT IS AND ULTIMATELY MAKE A BIG DECISION. THE DECISION IS WHETHER OR NOT YOU CAN ACCEPT HIS CURRENT BEHAVIOR EITHER CONTINUING HOW IT IS NOW FOR THE REST OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP, OR IT GETTING EVEN WORSE BECAUSE HE KNOWS YOU WILL ACCEPT IT AND STAY WITH HIM EVEN SO.
Cakefacebitch on May 16, 2018:
LINA, are you kidding me? BREAK UP WITH HIM. He sounds like a narcissist. And could very well be cheating on you. If he's not physically cheating on you, he's obviously doing it in his mind. I'm hoping you're either really young, otherwise you're extremely naive, in denial, or you do not have much common sense. Well, common sense doesn't seem all that common these days, especially with younger people (under 25). So I wouldn't be surprised. But for your sake, and to prevent further pain and heartache that I KNOW you are feeling, stop seeing this selfish prick. Tell him if she's so great, then go ahead and be with her, because you're not going to accept that. If you continue allowing him to do these things, it will only end with you devastated and regretting having stayed with him. Not to mention, it could very well affect any or all future relationships you might have in a negative way.
Cakefacebitch on May 16, 2018:
LINA, are you kidding me? BREAK UP WITH HIM. He sounds like a narcissist. And could very well be cheating on you. If he's not physically cheating on you, he's obviously doing it in his mind. I'm hoping you're either really young, otherwise you're extremely naive, in denial, or you do not have much common sense. Well, common sense doesn't seem all that common these days, especially with younger people (under 25). So I wouldn't be surprised.
Lina on April 26, 2018:
My boyfriend is really flirty with other girls and when I said it makes me feel uncomfortable and insecure, he said that I have to accept it because it's his nature.
There was this one girl he used to text saying he loves her and sent kisses. He claimed she is his friend and they joke around. I have also seen him text his friends talking about the types of sexy snaps she sent him. Therefore, I felt really jealous and insecure about them talking. There was one time he texted her but deleted their texts and we had a fight about it. If there was nothing to hide why would he delete them?
We had a fight last Saturday and I wasn't talking to him as I was mad. But then we started talking Sunday night. Later I found out he started chatting with her on snapchat during the time we fell out. I don't know what they talked about but I'm pretty sure he flirted. He said he "jokes" with her but why can't he consider how I feel when he flirts with other girls?
Asp on March 31, 2018:
I caught him texting another woman and asking her to hang out. He admitted to it. I am destroyed.. 17 years and 2 kids together. Fresh new baby as well….. I feel lost……. what do I do?
Gg on March 20, 2018:
I have a boyfriend where he admitted to me after I caught him texting all these other different women and he said he’ll continue to do it cause it’s entertaining to him and I know for sure he has not physically because I’m with him majority of the time but I’m scared he will eventually will and recently i found out he aslo likes looking at trans- sexual porn and I don’t know how to talk to him or how I feel when I’m around him I don’t know weather to me mad, sad, understanding if it is just a sexual thing please help
Katrina Tait on March 17, 2018:
I believe my boyfriend is cheating on me. Because he is always…! In his phone. Texting while he is exposed.Which I am talking about necked…! We don't have sex like we use too…! Its not the same…! He been trying to do different…! Poison's. Too have sex we never did that. Our way is sideways. Position. Nothing else he wanted me too have sex with him my back toward him. With my booty faced him…! We never did that. I believe he tried it with someone else.
Lindsey on March 08, 2018:
Anita, no need to look. You have listed more reasons to leave him than what could possibly be on his phone. Leave and don't look back.
Anita jeffers on March 08, 2018:
I live with my boyfriend. I've caught him several times in the last year texting other women sexual text. It's hey baby, I want some, I miss you, I love you, and hey sexy, hey beautiful, and just recently, one of those women he's known for quite awhile they text back and forth for 30 minutes, and then he deleted all of them, and the explanation was I don't know anything about deleting text. That day he did that was when my girlfriend had flown in from Texas to spend 4 days with me and this happened on a Wednesday, which is the day she gets off at 12 noon.They began texting at 11:30 am and stopped at 12 noon, then he deleted them all. He told me that when I go looking for trouble, I'll find it, another words, he indirectly blamed me for what I found on his phone. He left his phone here today by accident, should I look at it again? I believe he's a liar, many times over and he's been abusive to me many times. I need advice please, before he returns home in two hours.He is a Hispanic illegal immigrant,alcoholic, gambling addicted person. Please help me, I don't know why I love him, sometimes he's good to me,i'm 14 years older than him, I suppose I'm insecure, especially after all he's done to me. Please get back with me before he gets home, if I look in his phone and find he's lied and doing it again, I'll leave, and never look back, but if I don't look at his phone, then I may never get this opportunity again to where he leaves his phone at home. Please help soon.
Rein on March 01, 2018:
I've been with my bf for over 2 years now and he's done such things in the past and I forgave him. It took me a while to get over it but it just made me trust him less, but at the same time, I still feel that I trust him the same amount (if that makes sense). We've broken up before because of this issue and got back together, and he says the texts were innocent, so I let it go and if we wanted this to really work I would "take his word for it" and I wouldn't accuse him of anything. As time went on, his phone would go off in the middle of the night but he wouldn't look at it until I was fully asleep and away from me. It would go off early in the morning too (8am) and he would tell me it's his coworkers letting him know they're are taking the day off. Lastly, when he changed his phone, everything in his old phone transferred to the new one and I asked for it; and he did it gladly. I looked at his gallery and saw pictures of us and his kids, and women I've never seen before. He claimed they were women BEFORE OUR TIME. I still wonder if this is true; however I'm guilty for using that same lie. I'm at that point where I don't care. I can't control him. I can't tell him what to do. It's taken a lot of emotional stress and energy to try and keep up with him and our relationship that I've been putting it on auto-pilot. So far, nothing bad has happened; just all good. No arguments, no accusations. Am I wrong for this or is this normal? I'm just rolling with the punches and figured not every one is perfect.
Jibaro on February 04, 2018:
Krystal, get a life. Either you accept his behavior, not his words, and look to the other side or finish the relation and take the highway.
It is your choice!
Krystal on February 03, 2018:
I have been with my boyfriend for four years and lived with him for three years. He has recently got a new job and he went out with his work friends for a meal. A few weeks after the meal he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore and asked me to move out. However we were never officially over and we still acted as if we were together but going through a rough patch in the relationship. Next, a month has passed and I asked to talk to him face to face about our relationship. So I drove to his work and caught him in his car with a girl from his work. He tells me that he was breaking it off with her because he wants Me. I really don't think i can forgive him but I also am stuck in what to do. I believe I will never know the whole truth of what happened between them and he still works at the same place and sees her all the time at work. I need some advice?
Kenzie on January 21, 2018:
Ok so I notice on Instagram that my boyfriend followed this one girl and I didn’t really think much of it but then when he came to my house this past Friday her name popped up from iMessages and I asked who she was but he said I don’t even know. The thing is if he doesn’t know who she is then how did she get his number. I just don’t really know what to do though I really like him a lot but it just hurts my heart to even think that he would do that.
Mona Lucas on January 21, 2018:
What do I do?? My B/F texts this female for hours on end a day..but lies to me and say he is not and the reason I know this his phone bill comes to my e-mail each month.
There are four to five females that he does this with and if it's not texts its call.
Have confront him and its the same lie "baby I don't or yes but it's we are exchange HRU greetings come on for hours on end..
How can one text for hours at one sitting
Jibaro on January 15, 2018:
You get into my Cell and you are simply out! There is no second chances. You star getting jealousy rages, you are out! No second chances. If you want to have top notch material, Centerfold Quality, you will have to learn to behave properly and that means that other people will look at your partner, will tease your partner, will woo your partner and maybe your partner will ditch you or you will ditch your partner. After he or she have left be thankful that:
1- You were able to enjoy such booty!
2-Feel great because of the departure. the person was not worthy of you!
Sam on January 13, 2018:
what if he is talking with the girl for hours on the phone and he doesn't talk to you like that and also doesn't care. when he talks to her and you come in to the room and he change the way he talk to her .but this girl has a boyfriend and he tells her that if she has any thing she needs help he will be there. but why doesn't she call her boyfriend instead.
Anna on January 11, 2018:
My bf texts this girl whom he met at some b'day party. That girl kinda started flirting first with some 'kiss' emojis and my bf also then started flirting her. I think he has a crush on her but he says that 'it was a long time back, she has a bf now' but it was when we were already in a relationship…what do i do?
Louise on January 08, 2018:
I think if you are uncomfortable that you feel that your partner is texting another woman constantly than you should politely bring it up and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. Make sure of course that it isn't a member of his family or a friend/co-worker that he only texts occasionally. However if your bf is texting another woman constantly that is not his family you have every right to feel uncomfortable and bring it up with him politely.
lau on January 06, 2018:
my bf is texting a girl that likes him but he told me tho and he told me he makes her laugh and they text more with her than me but it really makes me jealous and it makes me cry cause i think he is gonna dump me to be with her, what do i do
Wendy on December 28, 2017:
My boyfriend text other women and ask them to come over. Not right ?!
Nie on December 26, 2017:
My boyfriend when I text he didn’t response And also I call he didn’t answer is there possibility that he. Cheat
lizzy on December 19, 2017:
My bf and I have been together for a short period, 2 years and have lived together for 1. Combined we have 4 children. 2 from my previous marriage and 2 from his. In my previous marriage we divorced because if infidelity, because of that I every so often check my current bf phone. He was out of town for work and when he came back I checked his phone. He was texting a person he met while out of town, kinda flirty but not full on. He said nothing happened . But this is the 3rd time I catch him in our time living together. He said he loves me and is happy with me and our relationship but sometimes finds it difficult when all the kids are home and feels overwhelmed. He said he does to seek attention. My heart loves him and i adore his kids, but my logic tells me to run…confused.
Kay on November 26, 2017:
The other night I saw my boyfriend texting another girl. I have tried to play it off as nothing. But this morning I had to know for sure. The text that was sent said " do you want to try anything new on Tuesday night" what do I do???
Corrine Torres on November 08, 2017:
I caught my man texting girls on his phone then this one girl keeps calling him I picked up twice I am so confused not shure what to do please help
lily on November 03, 2017:
being with him for ONLY 6 months does not mean much in relationship
mistake 1: he told you he has problem with women and you don't listen
mistake 2: you don't listen to your peers or friends who advise you to leave him
mistake 3: you want to change him?
He does not take you serious honey. He will replace you someday and by that time you will blame yourself for not seeing that and then hate him more for it.
well, hang in there then….good luck.
If someone really respect you and loves you and appreciate you he would not do that – text to so many women and said they are beautiful…etc…RED FLAGS. get out. You will be so happy realize you do the right thing and don't regret. Be smart and strong girl –
Ahana choudhury on October 30, 2017:
if a boy is texting with other girl and at the same time he is saying it to her girlfriend what does it mean
Nicole on October 03, 2017:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and we are the best couple ever we live together, we work together, we do everything together, however he Texts other girls…I know about it because I read the messages. He text well over 8 different girls and it's not just Flirty, he called them babe and beautiful but he's never actually went out and cheated on me with one of these girls just texted them. He knows I know, but all he says is "babe you know I have a problem with women" sometimes we fight a little and I forgive him. He's done this to me several times before and says the same thing every time. I've asked him how could I help and he just says I don't know. I've asked friends for advice before but all they tell me is to leave him, I can't do that. I can't leave someone I love…I just need to know how to fix him or help him. I want it to be just us no one else. What do I do? Please help…
Desiree on August 23, 2017:
So me and my boyfriend have been together since 2015. We have been on and off for a while. The last time that We were actually on good terms was probably in June. All of a sudden he changed his password and secretly had a Snapchat account behind my back with the loads of females. All of a sudden he started bringing up his ex girlfriend whenever we argue. He tells me that if he could , he would leave me for her . He tells me a lot of stupid shit. What do I do? I love him and I been with him for a while. I don't wanna let go of him. Please help !
Jorge Vamos (author) on July 28, 2017:
Well, Amanda, since I don't know the details of your relationship and its ups and downs over 9 years, I can't say for sure whether you should leave or stay. Sometimes relationships can be rebuilt after breaches of trust, but often it's difficult if the trust has been broken more than once. It's up to you whether this is a deal-breaker or not.
I will say this, however: Whether you think his excuse is believable or not, it is more troubling if the excuse IS true than if it isn't.
If his self-esteem is so low that he can't stop himself from trolling for attention even though it threatens his relationship of almost a decade, then personally I don't think he has any business being in a relationship in the first place. You have to be happy with yourself before you drag someone else into your life.
Furthermore, his excuse is just that: an excuse. A poor excuse, at that. From what you've said (that he did it twice), it seems that he either has very little self-control or he doesn't care what you think and is only concerned about getting caught.
Either way, that's a recipe for his doing it again. Ask yourself (and him): What's stopping him from just doing it again? You already caught him twice. What's different this time?
For all you know, he could have done this many times before and you only just happened to catch him twice. As far as physically acting on it–he may have, or he may have not. He may have just not had the opportunity…yet.
People who send lewd messages to each other usually have a certain goal in mind, even if it's subconscious. They may not consciously think about it, they may just tell themselves it's "just for fun." After something physical happens, they say, "Oh, it just happened. I didn't expect it to go so far. One thing led to another."
A person who doesn't want to do this won't send messages like that in the first place. You know him well by now; it's been 9 years.
Ask yourself: If one of these people invited him to meet and he had the opportunity to cheat on you very easily with someone very attractive without getting caught, would he take the offer?
Probably most people who are texting other people saucy messages would. Then the question becomes whether you want to spend the rest of the relationship being extra vigilant of his behavior.
Amanda on July 28, 2017:
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 9 years now and have lived together for 8 of those years. I recently caught him texting someone and threatened to end the relationship as this is the 2nd time I have caught him. Now we are in this relationship limbo. I am very upset and am contemplating leaving the relationship and he is crying, begging, pleading for me not to end it. His explanation for his actions is that getting the attention from other people gives him a sense of self-worth and value. He swears that he has never had any physical contact with any of these people and that the conversations are initiated through instagram. My question is what do you think I should do? I am 31 years old and have been with this person since I was 22. We have built a life together but the trust has been broken. Do you think its a smart choice to work through these issues of cut ties?
Jorge Vamos (author) on July 19, 2017:
Tough situation. The only thing I can really say is that if you don't have the "title" and haven't discussed being in a relationship with him, then he probably feels like he has the freedom to text anyone he wants. Why would he decide to commit to you on his own when it hasn't been discussed overtly? Most of us don't give up our freedom that easily. 😛
It's best not to just assume that he feels the same way you do–that you're "dating exclusively." From his perspective, it might be totally different! That's why I would suggest bringing it out in the open and being honest with him about your thoughts. Usually guys don't do well with hints; we need you to be really, really obvious.
Hudy on July 19, 2017:
This guy and me are dating exclusivly, basically without the actual "title" and he is texting one of my friends. I think they are flirty, and he definetly texts her more than he texts me. What should I do?